Older Men Dating Younger Women – APPROACHING HER

– Hi! What’s your name? – My name is Alejandra My experience with an older man was very, very interesting because he was very bold – Ohh – In order to pick me up He was very bold, he came close during a night out in the club

I didn’t know him and he approach me to ask for my phone number He really caught my eye because he had an amazing body – He looked good? – Yes! – Physically, he looked really well, he didn’t show the age I later found out he had So, I conceded and gave him my number Within some time, we started dating and having a more close relationship I started dating him more like a formal couple – So, you then realize he was how old? – I realize he was 45 years old and I was just 16 years old

So, there was a big difference At first many people didn’t like it but he was very persistent but not intense – How was the visual contact with him? What did he do that made you look at him again? – Well, first of all, he was staring at me a lot because we were in a club where you could dance salsa – And you know how to dance? – Yes! – So, he was looking at you – Yes, he was staring Later I found out he liked how I danced He started to come closer and I was close to the bar So he came around and looked at me, he… – The visual contact – There was a lot of visual contact – But did he look at you like? – He stared a lot, but it wasn’t that hard look that can make you a bit nervous

Instead, it was more of a sensual look – An interesting look – Yes, interesting So, he tried to come close to where I was dancing He looked at me like this… He closed a little bit his eyes and never stopped looking – It was a focus looked but with desire – Yes – Like… – Desire but not like “I want to eat you” or something No – More of a look like, “how interesting, I want to come close” – Yes, more sassy but not too sensual More erotic really – Yes – It caught me really – Of course – He did it – What other thing did he do after that? He looked at you – Yes – He saw you were very cute I want to come close – He looked at me and waited for me to stop dancing with the person I was with And, he came and ask if I could teach him how to dance salsa So I told him “yes, of course” and begun to give the class right there – Right there? – Yes, a salsa started right away and I told him to come close to dance

And he smelled delicious! – Delicious! And he smelled delicious! – Delicious! – So that was it! First the look and then how he smelled, it was so nice So it was possible for him to come close – Afterwards he ask for my phone number with the excuse of wanting to continue with the salsa lessons!

Older Men Dating Younger Women – FIRST MEETING

– Well, after he asked for her phone number, what was the first way of reaching out? Did he called, sent an SMS or asked a friend to give her a message What did he do? – Well, we didn’t have any friends in common

He called a week later – A week later? – Yes I really thought he wasn’t going to call I was like “he disappeared from the planet” But he did call with the excuse that he wanted to have some salsa lessons, so we made an appointment – How long would you rather have him call you? That you say, it’s normal

He doesn’t look that needy That you feel it is the right time to call someone – Three days max Three days max – If he calls you after two days, would that be ok? – Yes I think you should always leave a day pass after you’ve met and just call the next day, I think that’s great – When he called, what was the first thing he said? – Well, when he called he said he was interested in the lessons, that he was really sorry he didn’t call before but that he was really busy with work

He was still interested in the lessons Afterwards I realize he wasn’t interested in the lessons press – So in that phone call, he just said I’m interested in the lesson, when can we have it? – Yes – When can we meet? Like making an excuse to see you without being too forward – Exactly He wasn’t explicit I actually thought that he really was interested just in the lessons! – Lessons! The first contact Right now, many people use WhatsApp SMS are a bit old fashion

I think we don’t even check them anymore If someone sends a SMS, it’s likely we won’t see it – Yes Just the phone company – Exactly So, for the first contact with someone would you like them to send you a text? – It’s better if you call – It’s better if you call Because you can feel more of an interest With WhatsApp you can be talking to anyone If you call it’s much better – Ok, he called, he wanted the lessons, what did you say to him? You were like “let’s meet Tuesday at 8 at my place or yours” I don’t know where – Well, we schedule the meeting at his apartment within a couple of days – This is getting hot! This is getting hot! I was busy with some stuff from college I arrived at his apartment thinking – Weren’t you nervous? I mean you were going to his apartment, he’s single and you were alone – And he was hot – And he was hot! – Well

At first I was curious I wanted to go, I was sure about that I prepared the class believing somehow that’s what he wanted, but no! – I was a little scared but when we met at the club, our connection made me feel trusting towards him, so I was fine going – So you went there – Yes – And what happened? – Well, he received me and offered me something to drink, some alcohol and I was so nervous that I took it A vodka After that, he was very honest

He told who he was, I already knew his name, but he told what was he doing here He was local but he hadn’t come to the country in a while He said that without a doubt he called me because he was interested in me and that the lessons were an excuse to get in touch with me – And how did he talk to you? Did he sit by your side or touched your hair? – No, no – Or grabbed your hand? – No, no At first we had some distance I sat in a sofa and he in another one So there was some distance, because he did see I was a little nervous – Nervous? – Yes

So he told me to relax and the vodka did help a little bit We started talking and he told me about his life, what he wanted – To give you more confidence? – Yes, yes – Ok, so you’ve already talk He told you about his life and you liked each other that day You saw him and he saw you

All of that What did you say to each other afterwards? – He said that he really liked the way I danced, that it was very elegant That he knew I was young but that it wasn’t the only thing that attracted him about me, it was more about my personality – Did he knew your age? – No, I was about to tell him But he knew I mean you could tell the difference and I was 16 still – But he never thought you were a minor? – He thought I had 20 years old but never 16 – So, when did you ask yourselves about your ages? He started talking about his life and then told you that he really liked you and the way you danced

What did he say after that? – Well, once I started telling him stuff about my life, that I was practically in college, he began to speculate about my age and asked me if I was underage He couldn’t believe it! He met me in a club of course, so it was a big surprise overall – You already told him you were 16, did you ask about his age? – I wasn’t able to ask him and I really didn’t care much about it He looked really young and dressed very well and I just felt attracted to him since the first time I met him – So for you age is not a problem? – No, it didn’t matter to me at that moment and I found out later on about his age I mean, I figured he was way older than me

Dating Older Men

Hello everyone! My name is Rita Gehman, with The Man Plan! 🙂 And this video is about dating older men and the benefits and privileges and advantages and a couple of disadvantages to dating older men, but that's hardly anything I've done a lot of dating

I myself have done a lot of dating of men of all different ages, so this is something that I have a lot of experience in Older men have advantage of younger men in a lot of different ways Older men are more emotionally mature, which is a really big deal when you're looking for a good, stable, solid relationship, or pretty much any relationship at all So, older men have this unique advantage of just being more emotionally mature Older men have more perspective on reality and on life and on situations, so when you're kind of going a little bat shit crazy, just a little bit, older men have the ability to just kind of not only bring you down to earth, but really ground you and give you perspective on all the different facts, and all the different possibilities that could be going on, or all the different sides to the situation

Older men are better, sexually I've never met an older man who was significantly worse than a younger man, or really the bad sex older men, they tend to be still, on average, so much better than the middle, as in between good and bad, the middle sex younger man Younger men So, there's an advantage, there's an average advantage, to having sex with older men Older men, they tend to be better looking

Men, they get, a lot of them get better looking with age Some of them, they don't Some of them are better looking when they're younger, but a lot of men, they get better looking with age Some women have the ability to pull this off really well Not all women know HOW to do it

I hope that, someday, I'll know how to do it (laughs) But older men, they have the ability to, they just have the ability age really well, especially if they're dating a younger woman, they have kind of a charisma and gregariousness that makes them so much more enjoyable Older men also just tend to love If you're dating an older man, you're a younger woman, older men love dating younger women If you're dating an older man, he's enjoying the fact that you're young and beautiful and lovely and vivacious and strong and sweet and awesome So, an older man is going to really appreciate that about you

So, you can just be yourself with him, whereas a younger man, there might be a feeling of needing to prove yourself, there might be a feeling of needing to be his equal in some way And older man, he already makes you feel like you're his equal Younger men, they're not nearly as good at that Older men are just more mature in the face of reality So, older men are able to withstand pressures and stressful situations so much better

A couple of downfalls to dating older men There's a little bit, there's a tiny bit of a stereotype, a tiny bit of a mindset about if you're dating an older man, you must be using them or something like that But, it's not a very strong stereotype, and any woman who is smart enough to date an older man is generally smart enough to not come across as a complete doofus to anyone, so it's not very likely that you will be seen that way It's just not very likely that anybody will be seen that way But, because of the overall general mentality about it, there's a little bit of a stigma about that

Also, dating older men has a bit of a stigma in that older men Younger men can say "Well, older men, they're not as good at sex

They're not as good at certain things" Older men are better at sex Speaking as someone who's really done a lot of research on this, older men, on average are just SO much better Here's the average set of younger men, here's the average set of older men The whole spectrum of younger men are not as good as the whole spectrum of sex in older men, so don't be fooled about that

Alright, ladies, I strongly recommend that you date older men if you're interested in it If you have an older man that you're interested in, go ahead and pursue him Get it done Get it out of the way Don't worry about it

Just see what it's like And it will be more comfortable with him than it would be with a younger man So, my name is Rita Gehman, with The Man Plan Please subscribe below! And like the video And I want to hear all your comments and what your opinions is! Please share the video, and I hope everyone has an Awesome Day! See you on the other side

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DATING ADVICE: AGE DIFFERENCE IN RELATIONSHIP. Older Women Younger Men. Stop dating unavailable men

hi guys my name is Elena Semenek and welcome to my channel Psychology of Happiness where happiness is the purpose of life so this question came on my Facebook page how to stop attracting the wrong man my relationship lasts for two three months and for some reason I am attracting married men it's like a bad karma how to stop attracting unavailable men recently I started dating younger guys a few times I told the man that I love him but suddenly everything goes wrong and I'm alone I want to have a normal relationship how to stop attracting the wrong guys I would like to know what am I doing wrong I'm a loving person I smile all the time I'm a very positive I will really appreciate your advice this woman is asking three questions three topics first one is dating a married man second one is dating a younger man and the third one she's saying that her relationship lasts only for short period of time let's talk about each point separately first one is dating a married man when a woman is 3 to 5 years old she's competed with her mother she's competing with her mother for father's attention and the mother should be the winner in a dual situation the girl learned that married man is not for her the married man has a wife her mother and he loved her though she cannot win so when the girl is growing up she already knows that a married man is an available man and she is not interested in relationship with a married man it also can happen in the situations when a father is telling a girl that she is the most important in his life when he's saying that he loves her more than anyone and he loves her more than mom in this case all so the mother is not the winner the daughter is the winner so the girl is thinking if I was able to win the competition competition with my mom then any other wife is not going to be an issue she does not really care about any other women it's not happening like consciously subconsciously but she's thinking that if I was able to win the competition with my mom then who cares about his wife he loves me maybe in your life it was different maybe your father did not say those words but your mother was unavailable maybe your mother was working very hard was working a lot or maybe she was emotionally unavailable and in this case you were more close with your father so he did not tell you that you're the most important person for him he did not tell you that he loves you more than his wife but you knew it you kind of knew it from your heart from the inside that you know mother is busy your mother is not emotionally available but you have such a good contact with your father so you are theoretically and practically the winner so that's why you're attractive married man I have a separate video about dating and married men consequences of dating a married man and about the habit of being a mistress I will leave the link below this video the second topic is about dating a younger men if it's just 2 3 4 years younger then it's okay that's totally fine I don't see anything wrong about it but if he is significantly younger than you then it might be about trust issue and control issue possible that after several are unsuccessful relationship with a married man you cannot trust a guy you are cannot trust to go into deep relationship you already learned that love equal pain so in this creation you decide that you gonna be in control so it's better to date younger guys and control the situation control the relationship then go back to pain because if your control and you kind of like in charge of everything you cannot feel pain you can manage the relationship so in this case you're saying I will control the situation I will control the relationship I will be in control because you're older you already know what he's going through you already know what to expect from a younger guy so you're going in this relationship and it's easy for you it's easy for you to be in charge in this situation you becoming like a mother who is controlling the relationship a woman can control a man in two ways the first way is like a hard way when she's telling you what to do when she's teaching him when she is shaking what he is doing and the second way when she is loving caring supporting she is like a nice soft mother who is taking care of her boy taking care of his arm problems you know who is controlling him in a soft nice way and it's also kind of shot just a little bit different but it's also a control and the third topic is about the relationship that lasts only two three four months so why is it happening this is about fear fear that relationship will bring pain fear that your heart will be broken again fear that something will go wrong and it's gonna be even more pain and this is the reason why you were choosing unavailable man why you are choosing the wrong guys because you afraid that your relation ship will bring even more pain so it's better to be in relationship for a short period of time because if you're gonna be in a long-lasting relationship then the pain will be bigger so you want to be in relationship but you want to be for a short period of time because married man is also unavailable man so it's also about short relationship you are choosing short relationship unavailable relationship because you're great to feel pain it's better to be in a short relationship and have small pain than be in a long relationship and have huge pain so the fear of being close and relationship that fear of future conflicts the fear of future future divorce maybe or the fear of being disappointed is so huge that you are choosing unavailable guys that you choose an Iran man that you are choosing a married man that you're choosing a man who is significantly younger than you so this is all about the fear the fear that my heart will be broken again that I will be disappointed the daggers will will feel so bad that I rather be alone I rather be alone I rather ended relationship now I'd rather treat unavailable men so it's gonna end in two three maybe four months I also have another video about why in mine like in relationship and about jealousy and loneliness I will leave the links below this video make sure to check those ridges share this video with your friends post on your Facebook Twitter subscribe to my channel put the thumbs up if you like this video click the bell icon to receive notifications of new videos that I post every week thank you for watching the college of happiness we at happiness is the purpose of life

10 Reasons Why Younger Women Like Dating Older Men

10 Reasons Why Younger Women Like Dating Older Men That was a nice title, we managed to get you here so we deserve a pat on our back! Alright now back to the point, we know we said that young women like older men but before you young boys decide to dye your hair grey to get them, it doesn’t apply to every girl! But you probably have faced a situation where you were trying to woo a girl and did everything right, from dressing to texting to one liners but she still ended up with your senior We totally get you buddy, we’ve been there and done that

So we thought why not help the likes of you to understand where you went wrong or rather what are the young girls looking for Are you interested in this ride into a young girl’s mind who goes gaga over older men? Number 10 They have an old world charm What do you expect to happen on a first date with a young boy? He’ll probably come late with a goofy expression plastered on his face and say “Heyyy whaddupp babesss”! While some girls would fall for this carefree attitude and expect some of his “coolness” to rub on them, others would find it a turn off! Pulling a chair, getting flowers or giving a peck on the cheek instead of pushing your tongue down her throat might impress her more After all, there is nothing like going old school in a budding romance! Number 9 They’re more established We’re not saying that younger men can’t be successful but the chances are bleak

Older men have spent years establishing themselves and thus have higher chances of owning the luxuries of life If the man owns a house, a car, maybe a holiday cottage with a boat, his lady love can enjoys all this with him! Women who are financially independent are also inclined to date a man who is established or things come easy to him Come on, wealth makes dating more enjoyable, right? Number 8 They are better communicators Being a great communicator is not necessarily based on age because some guys are born with it But for the rest of us, it takes a lot of time to learn the art of listening and connecting through it

Till the time boys haven’t developed this skill, they are mostly pretending to listen to their girls while they are undressing her in his thoughts! We hope we haven’t offended anyone with this statement because hello, we said that in good humor or maybe that is just a cover-up! Okay so older men are more likely to hold meaningful conversations at a first meeting or even flirt well at a bar Women like this “best of both worlds” idea! Number 7 They’ve got time A young woman may have a lot of reasons to love a man her age but it will die down if he has no time at his disposal to spend with her! Young men are generally too engrossed in building their career and doing late nights to impress their superiors that they often end up with time schedules with no time slot for their lady love This will not go down too well with the woman who would eventually look for a man who can wind up work early on a Friday for a weekend getaway! An older man seems like an ideal choice here because he is further ahead in his career and doesn’t have to put in 60 hours of work every week to earn his bread! Number 6 They’re better at relationships You get better with experience- that is applicable in all fields in general but for now we are focusing on the relationship bit! While we are young, we often make mistakes and gradually learn from them

In case of relationships, after guys are over their amateur mistakes and flaws as a boyfriend, they become a keeper! And age has a role to play in it, with years of dating behind them, they learn to keep realistic expectations and lay them clear in the beginning without beating around the bush Also they learn to respect their partner’s needs and wants and have the confidence to take a step when things aren’t working or for the opposite! Number 5 They are smarter and wiser Come on now, with all those years in their backpack, you know that they have conquered wisdom and smartness! So while the younger boys are downing one beer after another, the older men are using their years of experience to discuss important topics with their lady and making her fall for his intelligence and wisdom! Let’s face it, boys take a while longer to reach maturity and some girls can’t wait for their boyfriends to grow up and that’s where the older man comes in the picture! Number 4 They’ve kicked bad habits You’d probably say that with age our habits tend to grip us even more and it gets difficult to leave behind them You’ve got a point there but you’ve conveniently kept the maturity aspect out of it

While young men in their 20s would be struggling with their smoking habit or how ogling a woman is not nice, older men have seen the long term consequences of them and have quit these habits for good! That makes for another reason to love a man with grey in his hair! Number 3 They are more confident Older men have faced their youthful insecurities, dealt with them and moved on in life They have emerged victorious and lead a more confident life in general which is generally not enjoyed by young boys These mature men tend to exude more comfort and create a fun atmosphere for their lady There is nothing sexier than a man who is confident in his own skin and makes an effort to make others feel the same way about themselves

That’s a quality most women look for in their partner! Number 2 They aren’t looking to change the woman An older man has been through many relationships and has learnt that there is no point in trying to mold a woman to make her fit into his life He would rather go for a girl who he finds compatible with him the most and would enjoy her being what she is Many women believe that even when they are living in the age of feminism, many young men can’t tolerate a woman who is strong headed, opinionated and desires independence Older men on the other hand have been through this phase and know that being less controlling is the key to a happy partnership! Number 1

They know what they are doing in bed Get her to one orgasm with foreplay and move to the thrusting part That’s how most young boys behave in the intimacy of their bedrooms But as their experience with ladies increases, they focus more on the pleasure of their partner This means that they are not in a hurry to cut the chase and move to the end thing but the foreplay session where they are getting her hot and bothered will end up with orgasms- yes plural! Older men know that a good night is one where their woman loses count of her orgasms Boys, take the hint! What is your take on young women dating older men? Tell us in the comment section below

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8 Reasons Why Men Prefer Dating Older Women

8 Reasons Why Men Prefer Dating Older Women Dating has become so much easier with technology guiding us through the painstaking process of landing our perfect one! But these sites and apps that match us to people with similar interests are notorious in the sense that their statistics reveal men prefer to date women who are in their 20s even if they are 50 years old themselves! The strange thing is that this inclination of men to date younger women is acceptable but the reverse is often frowned upon! Don’t worry, we won’t bore you with gender equality jargon because the point here is that unlike these men, there are some who are attracted to older women Going against the societal taboo, such men do exist so even if you aren’t Madonna or JLo, you may find love in a younger man, after all there are so many reasons why men want to date mature women

Wanna know about them? Number 1 Confidence is sexy As if you didn’t already know this- men find confident women sexy! Even though confidence isn’t directly linked to age but younger women tend to be insecure about themselves because they can’t help but compare themselves to the models they regularly see on the covers of Vogue and GQ! They suffer from unhealthy self-image because let’s face it- flawless skin, concave belly, hour glass figure with zero cellulite isn’t the most common body type! Older women on the other hand have been through all this and have emerged out smarter with the knowledge that they are sexy in their own skin Guess what? Men find this so much sexier than young girls who get jealous by a simple, “She looks pretty”! Number 2 No commitment pressure This may sound more like a stereotype but let’s face it, this applies 8 out of 10 times! Younger women are more likely to run after commitment than mature women Older ladies have had their fair share of serious relationships, seen the pros and cons and have probably grown tired of them, at least you can hope for the last bit! The point is that mature women know what kinda emotional stress comes with a serious relationship and are thus not jumping at any opportunity they get to tag the guy as their “boyfriend” unless of course everything is working out just fine! The men won’t feel strangled with the expectation of commitment with older women and trust us, this is a good enough reason to date them! Number 3

Better dates If your idea of a date is getting drunk, dancing to the music blaring from some annoying speakers and then passing out in the washroom, then you are better off with a young girl But if intellectual conversations stimulate you more than seeing semi-naked girls in the club, you might want to explore the other options! Older women are generally more aware about the world and can give you amazing trivia while sipping expensive wine in a relatively more human-like place The best part is that you may not even have to pay for her drinks because remember we told you, she is financially independent and going Dutch might be her style! Number 4 No liabilities If you are an older woman, chances are that you are already well settled in your life with your career in place and priorities well laid out You had a way of life before the man walked by and swept you off your feet and you probably will still live like the independent woman that you are

You won’t make your man the center of your life and that’s something most men like and also something most young women fail to give them! Plus how can we forget that older women already have money, house and car so they aren’t probably after your money That’s a huge doubt cleared out, boys you can take a sigh of relief! Number 5 No biological clock ticking The millennials and Generation Y males are no longer like their ancestors who had a settled career, married and proud parents to 3 by the time they hit 35! This generation will most likely devote a few years to fun before they can mentally prepare themselves to settle down and plan a family Don’t judge them, after all most of them are still struggling to pay off their student loans and stabilize a career so where’s the space for a family? This is why dating an older woman is a great idea because her biological clock isn’t ticking like a younger woman The mature lady has already been through this phase and is not looking for something permanent, at least we hope so! Number 6

The right approach Where on one hand young girls wait for the man to make the move, older ladies aren’t afraid of approaching a man at the bar if they like him Guys like it when the woman makes the first move! The overall communication in a relationship is better if the woman is older because she won’t act like a young girl not answering her phone to show her importance She is more open to communication about the issues creeping in and also about her sexual needs When a woman openly shares her desires and expectations from the relationship, it becomes easy for the man to please her The best thing is that she doesn’t feel that by talking about her needs, she’ll lose her man because as it is she won’t! Number 7

Experience helps Let’s not kid ourselves, if she is a mature woman, she probably has some experience up her sleeve And yes, we mean sexually! They are generally not shy in being naked around their man and are also ready to please him The more experience they have, the more they know about the things that men like in the bedroom and won’t shy away from giving a practical demo of their knowledge With many years of experience with different men, mature women know the tricks of the trade and what makes a man roar like the lion! Number 8 Self-awareness This one is twisted but very practical

Younger women aren’t so aware about their own bodies and that has been proven by a variety of researches, so no questioning that! But older women on the other hand have years of experience with other men as well as with themselves You know what we mean, right? They have been relieving themselves on their own and have a wide knowledge about the things that turn them on and what works best for them! Since they are self-aware, they are in a position to better guide their partners in pleasuring them which becomes a challenge when it comes to younger women The best part is that they are even ready to teach their younger lovers the tricks which will establish the men as experienced studs after the relationship is over and they move towards someone their own age! Are there any more reasons to date older women that should be on this list? Tell us in the comment section below Click on the bell icon and get notified of new videos and subscribe to our channel if you liked this video Stay tuned for more videos, lot’s coming up

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In the world of online dating, women ‘peak at 18 while men peak at 50’

 The miserable cross-section of ageism and sexism strikes again  You know, the general consensus that while men get better with age, women are pointless after the age of 30  A big part of this comes from our evolved drive to reproduce

A woman’s fertility is at its peak in her 20s, so that’s the best age for her to get pregnant and spawn some kids Men’s fertility declines with age too, but this doesn’t have as strong an impact on reproduction  And so men can still be attractive for reproductive purposes in later age, while women are biologically less attractive once they’re out of their fertile prime  There’s also the super fun cultural reasoning behind straight men fancying young women – the way we prize youthful bodies and demonise signs of ageing, the infantalising of women so men can feel more powerful, and so on  In the world of online dating, both those factors come to the fore, creating an environment where older men are flooded with matches while an older women’s prospects feel barren  To put it in blunt, haunting terms: Women on dating apps are most desired at 18, while men hit their peak at 50  That’s according to a new study published in the journal of Science Advances, which looked at data from heterosexual online daters living in Boston, New York, Seattle, and Chicago  The researchers found that a woman’s desirability on dating sites and apps declines with age, dropping from the time she’s 18 until she’s 60 That means that when online dating, women are at their peak desirability when they’re still teenagers  For men, however, desirability peaks at 50, then declines with age  ‘The age gradient for women definitely surprised us,’ Elizabeth Bruch, the author of the study, told the New York Times, ‘both in terms of the fact that it steadily declined from the time women were 18 to the time they were 65, and also how steep it was ’  Other than youth, factors that affected desirability were physical attractiveness and education – although the impact of education was stronger for men  While men’s desirability increased with the level of education they’d received, women were considered most desirable when they had an undergraduate degree When women had a postgraduate degree, they became less attractive  Before you get too miserable about the state of dating (30-year-olds with multiple degrees, you’re clearly doomed), it’s worth noting that these are the traits that people found attractive – it doesn’t mean they’d turn down anyone who doesn’t fit those rigid standards  People don’t tend to only go for people who meet their dream requirements, although the research did find that daters typically message potential partners around 25% more desirable than themselves