Older Men Dating Younger Women – APPROACHING HER

– Hi! What’s your name? – My name is Alejandra My experience with an older man was very, very interesting because he was very bold – Ohh – In order to pick me up He was very bold, he came close during a night out in the club

I didn’t know him and he approach me to ask for my phone number He really caught my eye because he had an amazing body – He looked good? – Yes! – Physically, he looked really well, he didn’t show the age I later found out he had So, I conceded and gave him my number Within some time, we started dating and having a more close relationship I started dating him more like a formal couple – So, you then realize he was how old? – I realize he was 45 years old and I was just 16 years old

So, there was a big difference At first many people didn’t like it but he was very persistent but not intense – How was the visual contact with him? What did he do that made you look at him again? – Well, first of all, he was staring at me a lot because we were in a club where you could dance salsa – And you know how to dance? – Yes! – So, he was looking at you – Yes, he was staring Later I found out he liked how I danced He started to come closer and I was close to the bar So he came around and looked at me, he… – The visual contact – There was a lot of visual contact – But did he look at you like? – He stared a lot, but it wasn’t that hard look that can make you a bit nervous

Instead, it was more of a sensual look – An interesting look – Yes, interesting So, he tried to come close to where I was dancing He looked at me like this… He closed a little bit his eyes and never stopped looking – It was a focus looked but with desire – Yes – Like… – Desire but not like “I want to eat you” or something No – More of a look like, “how interesting, I want to come close” – Yes, more sassy but not too sensual More erotic really – Yes – It caught me really – Of course – He did it – What other thing did he do after that? He looked at you – Yes – He saw you were very cute I want to come close – He looked at me and waited for me to stop dancing with the person I was with And, he came and ask if I could teach him how to dance salsa So I told him “yes, of course” and begun to give the class right there – Right there? – Yes, a salsa started right away and I told him to come close to dance

And he smelled delicious! – Delicious! And he smelled delicious! – Delicious! – So that was it! First the look and then how he smelled, it was so nice So it was possible for him to come close – Afterwards he ask for my phone number with the excuse of wanting to continue with the salsa lessons!

Older Men Dating Younger Women – FIRST MEETING

– Well, after he asked for her phone number, what was the first way of reaching out? Did he called, sent an SMS or asked a friend to give her a message What did he do? – Well, we didn’t have any friends in common

He called a week later – A week later? – Yes I really thought he wasn’t going to call I was like “he disappeared from the planet” But he did call with the excuse that he wanted to have some salsa lessons, so we made an appointment – How long would you rather have him call you? That you say, it’s normal

He doesn’t look that needy That you feel it is the right time to call someone – Three days max Three days max – If he calls you after two days, would that be ok? – Yes I think you should always leave a day pass after you’ve met and just call the next day, I think that’s great – When he called, what was the first thing he said? – Well, when he called he said he was interested in the lessons, that he was really sorry he didn’t call before but that he was really busy with work

He was still interested in the lessons Afterwards I realize he wasn’t interested in the lessons press – So in that phone call, he just said I’m interested in the lesson, when can we have it? – Yes – When can we meet? Like making an excuse to see you without being too forward – Exactly He wasn’t explicit I actually thought that he really was interested just in the lessons! – Lessons! The first contact Right now, many people use WhatsApp SMS are a bit old fashion

I think we don’t even check them anymore If someone sends a SMS, it’s likely we won’t see it – Yes Just the phone company – Exactly So, for the first contact with someone would you like them to send you a text? – It’s better if you call – It’s better if you call Because you can feel more of an interest With WhatsApp you can be talking to anyone If you call it’s much better – Ok, he called, he wanted the lessons, what did you say to him? You were like “let’s meet Tuesday at 8 at my place or yours” I don’t know where – Well, we schedule the meeting at his apartment within a couple of days – This is getting hot! This is getting hot! I was busy with some stuff from college I arrived at his apartment thinking – Weren’t you nervous? I mean you were going to his apartment, he’s single and you were alone – And he was hot – And he was hot! – Well

At first I was curious I wanted to go, I was sure about that I prepared the class believing somehow that’s what he wanted, but no! – I was a little scared but when we met at the club, our connection made me feel trusting towards him, so I was fine going – So you went there – Yes – And what happened? – Well, he received me and offered me something to drink, some alcohol and I was so nervous that I took it A vodka After that, he was very honest

He told who he was, I already knew his name, but he told what was he doing here He was local but he hadn’t come to the country in a while He said that without a doubt he called me because he was interested in me and that the lessons were an excuse to get in touch with me – And how did he talk to you? Did he sit by your side or touched your hair? – No, no – Or grabbed your hand? – No, no At first we had some distance I sat in a sofa and he in another one So there was some distance, because he did see I was a little nervous – Nervous? – Yes

So he told me to relax and the vodka did help a little bit We started talking and he told me about his life, what he wanted – To give you more confidence? – Yes, yes – Ok, so you’ve already talk He told you about his life and you liked each other that day You saw him and he saw you

All of that What did you say to each other afterwards? – He said that he really liked the way I danced, that it was very elegant That he knew I was young but that it wasn’t the only thing that attracted him about me, it was more about my personality – Did he knew your age? – No, I was about to tell him But he knew I mean you could tell the difference and I was 16 still – But he never thought you were a minor? – He thought I had 20 years old but never 16 – So, when did you ask yourselves about your ages? He started talking about his life and then told you that he really liked you and the way you danced

What did he say after that? – Well, once I started telling him stuff about my life, that I was practically in college, he began to speculate about my age and asked me if I was underage He couldn’t believe it! He met me in a club of course, so it was a big surprise overall – You already told him you were 16, did you ask about his age? – I wasn’t able to ask him and I really didn’t care much about it He looked really young and dressed very well and I just felt attracted to him since the first time I met him – So for you age is not a problem? – No, it didn’t matter to me at that moment and I found out later on about his age I mean, I figured he was way older than me